Archpriest Oleg Melnychuk: "It happens, his family home to remember to forget, but those, whom the Lord has entrusted to you, always remember ".

- Spiritual mentoring and inchurching - a single process or there is a difference between a religious rite?

- Spiritual mentoring - is the main mechanism, important spiritual activity towards churching. Churching - the process of entry into the life of the Church. They have as a common, and deeply individual character. For some people, only one word, so they went to the Temple, while for others you need to give all of himself, devote ten years, that they might receive in the heart of God, truly believe. Sometimes the priest must "crucify yourself", a man came to Jesus and saw ... especially, if a person has some special abilities, or has a different social status.

Note, inchurching - is the introduction of a person into the Church, not a candlestick, and to the Holy Chalice, Jesus Himself. Huge work is to reach out to such a person's heart. If there is no spiritual guidance in the churched, People at risk of becoming not an Orthodox, and "pravoslavnutym". This is a huge threat to human, his family.

- On the Spiritual mentoring is much talk and write. Who is a spiritual mentor?

- Why Orthodoxy is universal in its essence? Why is it right? Because there is an invaluable institution - duhovnichestvo. As Luca said Athos: "The priest - a man, which builds the shore, directs and controls the speed of your family and the ship on the river everyday ". Confessor protects the ship from the wreckage, directing it on the safe way.

- Family confessor - who and why?

– Family - is a whole world, which consists of a plurality of other worlds: peace between husband and wife, children's world. It's easier to reach out to women, because they have a more subtle spiritual order. They are more cordial. After all, faith - it is the doing of the heart, and then only the mind. A woman plays a major role in the process of spiritual formation, it is the spiritual engine of the whole family. The priest also determines the route for a locomotive and all members. Net priest - net complexion, there is no movement. Family confessor has a special relationship with the family as a whole, and a husband and wife, and children separately.
Why did the noble families in the family was the confessor? Because each member of the family has their own individual needs, We need look the part for the whole family.

Family confessor lives categories of two wills: God's will and the will of his child. Very often, the confessor can act as a psychologist, psychiatrist, another. it happens, explains that the confessor, but the family does not agree. Infuse impossible, should not violate the freedom of choice. If you do not hear, need time. The mission has played a confessor, He counseled.
Spiritual guidance - no power, this self-sacrifice. Confessor - is the chairman of the jury, people authoritative and observe the process.

- Is everything depends on the spiritual mentor? What is important is not to miss?

- It is important to the credibility of the confessor. This is the basis. Trust - is the first step to faith. Between family and confessor always happens spiritual cohabitation. churchman, who gives himself, living spiritual son. But here arises another question - about the boundaries duhovnichestva.

Love unlimited. But there must be a place for self-preservation. When you live, otdavayasy of 110%, what remains for yourself?! An experience? Yes. Acquisition of the Holy Spirit of grace? Yes. Life in God and awareness of, that will be in this family three, four, five years? Yes. And when the family does not want to hear, then apply the following formula spiritual: the right decision, which took the family itself, and not, which advised the confessor. The priest is ready to offer true, the right way. rill, which was wrong for, It transformed into a puddle, and eventually turned into a pond, Sea ...

- Find this confessor is not easy, especially in our time. Can I recognize a false teacher?

- Confident, false confessor that once people feel. This spiritual father can love truly, to give love and to exercise wisdom to the whole family as a whole and to each member of the family separately. Love is not given at the click, she acquired near the throne of God, at night, in the afternoon, at work and in everyday life. In search of a confessor should work towards the heart through prayer, because the heart is more perfect in knowledge.

- If a person found a spiritual mentor, praying for obedience. How not to lose a mentor?

- Pray - it means to engage in dialogue with God. The fruit of prayer - humility. The root of humility - the world, stay in the world. By humility and obedience comes. The basis of the word obedience - listening, hearing, t. it is. We need to listen, hear. If there is a person in the world and hearing, then he is able to hear the horn.

The relationship with his spiritual director should be protected, because it shows the will of God, the way of family happiness. Family mentor shapes the family life and fills it with a special atmosphere. The priest can never make Liturgy, pomyanuv not their children. it happens, his family home to remember to forget, but those, whom the Lord has entrusted to you, always remember.
Very important, that there was reciprocity. No reciprocity - there is no joint and spiritual perspectives.